I’m assuming that my Frantic ladies are ones who have a hard to time passing off the reigns to someone else? Did I get it right? If not, congratulations for being able to ask for help and let go of control! šš This is a hard thing to do for many women.
Why is delegation important? Well, first and foremost – you aren’t freaking SUPERWOMAN, so believe it or not: YOU CAN’T DO IT ALL!! š¤Æ Also, delegation is helpful for the economy (think about all those amazing instacart shoppers, etc. that are completing tasks for you so you can focus on your priorities), can increase othersā self-esteem, help you understand you arenāt a burden for others and it is also a great way for you to learn how to trust others and appreciate a different perspective.
Believe it or not, (now Iām going to need you to take a deep breath before I say thisā¦.) your way is not the only way. I know, I knowā¦.this is crazy, isnāt it? š But itās trueā¦.and when you finally let go of this belief, you can allow other people to complete a task and just focus on the fact that it is completed, not HOW it was completed.
So, here are a few helpful tips on how to delegate some of your tasks so you donāt feel so overwhelmed:
- If you live with others, create a chore chart. Roommates, spouse/partner, children? Great! All of them can do something around the house so you donāt have to do everything. I would be willing to bet that if you do most of the chores, you are probably resenting them right nowā¦.so letās remedy that, shall we? No sense in holding on to that resentment, when you can just ask for help. If you have small children, create age appropriate chores for them. And before you come at me with: āit takes longer for them to do it than me to do itā¦āTRUST ME – I KNOW! That is how I knew you were thinking it. Butā¦.letās get out of the minute by minute thinking and imagine a few months down the line when your children now have this chore down and itās part of their routine. It will be helpful and you are teaching them responsibility and team work and a few other positive characteristics/values.
- Grocery Pick-up or Delivery: For the love of God – let someone else shop for you! Unless you are one of those people who are actually calmed by the chaos that occurs inside the grocery store, then: you do you, boo! š The one positive aspect of a global pandemic was that curbside is now rampant and I donāt know about you, but I am HERE FOR IT! š Now, I am pretty picky about my produce, but I value my time over the quality of my fruit, so store pick up or delivery for the win! Want to give it a try first? Use my Instacart code for $10 off!
- Color Coding your to-do list: Sometimes we just are so overwhelmed by the ginormous task list we have that we get paralyzed. Keep an ongoing list and then create categories based on who can do the task: Partner, Kids, Assistant, Colleague, etc. This will help you look at your list a little differentlyā¦now, this isnāt a whole list YOU have to do. Itās a small shift, but it may help the way you look at it.
- Journal: If delegation is something you truly struggle with, take a little time each day and write what thoughts come up about delegating. A lot of issues with delegating typically come from our Core Beliefs, which I discuss in my Thoughts Course. It is important to understand what is standing in our way so you can find ways to overcome the obstacles.
- Hire Help: If this is financially possible for you, then by all means, HIRE HELP! Hire someone to clean your house, mow the lawn, run a few errands, make meals, etc. Someone out there enjoys doing whatever you are trying to delegate, so go find them and help yourself!
I know delegating is difficult and can seem more time-consuming in the beginning, but you are setting yourself up for less stress down the road.
